Why In Theory Back To The Future Is A Bad Idea and How to Handle Life Pushing You Forward

Everyone has heard the phrase "she was the one that got away" or maybe it was "he was the one who got away," depending on who you're talking to. Or maybe you are the one saying it, or maybe you will be saying it. This phrase has gotten a lot of usage over the years and for good reason. People slip in and out of lives continuously as we go along our journey. Some we forget, some we want to forget and some we cannot forget no matter how hard we try. Some people sear themselves into our brains and into our souls and we just cannot let go of them, no matter who or what may come along. No matter who is presently in our lives there is this seeming force behind us and with us. This would or could be the one "that got away." Now do we regret whatever action or motion caused us to lose this person even if we are happy with somebody else? Can you ever really lose that one person? Or do they follow you around for the rest of our life threatening all your future relationships? That "one" do we use them as comfort or as a burden and how do we ever really get over the "one that got away?"
For most people this relationship is a dead one and one that won't be brought back to life. So we date and we circulate and we have relationships with other people. Still we are carrying around this other person in our back pockets and in the dark hours is when they come to life. When our current relationships are crumbling you start to reflect on how great that one person was. Funny right now you can't remember all the horrible things they did to you, you can only focus on how great they are and what a comfort they would be if they were here. It's almost as if we are walking around with a baby blanket and we're clinging to it with all our might. What is that though that won't let us let go?
We're all guilty and no one is being singled out, we all might as well cry to our former flames and beg them to take us back only to realize they've had the same feelings as us in times of need. What would we be left with if we all returned to relationships that had crashed in the past? There may not be an answer for that, maybe for some it would work, for others probably the same hurt feeling. One thing's for certain, you can't turn back time, you can't go back to that place where you were in love with this person and they were in love with you. If that ship has sailed stand up tall and wave it goodbye. Much easier said than done, especially when you've been freshly hurt and what you want is a familiar face.One who knows you and your quirks and one who you think will support you. Time alters people and events and places. It's like going back to a childhood home and realizing its not the same, now imagining going back to a former partner after years and finding nothing the same, even more disappointment and hurt. Spare yourself the heartache.
Walk forward and don't turn back. As I write this I am pleading with myself as well, life pushes you in many different directions, some good,some bad, some confusing and some painful. But one thing it doesn't do, it does not push you backwards. If you fall, get up, don't wait for somebody to pick you up just get up. If you cry, cry and if you laugh, laugh. It's hard to take advice but it's harder to take your own. Whatever you do, do it for you and remember life moves forward, not back, move with it and you'll be fine,